Repost: How to Manage Your Anger

I posted this on my multiply account years ago, and i think this still can be useful for some people :)

Yesterday, I learned how to manage my anger, and then i tried to make it into a meaningful writings.

Hopefully this can be useful for everyone!

What I learn first is, if you are angry, don’t act pronto. You have to calm yourself first. As my friend once said in his notes, “everything is ugly when you are angry.” When you’re angry, you just can’t think clearly and objectively. You only focus to the cause of your anger, without think why and how that can happened. Really, this is very important. Don’t act pronto.

Second is, while you calm yourself, you can think and rethink about the cause of your anger. Besides of “How could he/she?”, you also have to think “Why he/she did that?” or “What is the reason he/she did that?” and “How this can be happened?” and so on. You have to think as clearly and objectively as you can. By knowing or at least wondering about the reason of the cause of your anger, you will have a clue about the main problem. Sometimes, the main problem may be trivial or not important at all. So, this second step is also very important to do. You have to be sure you have clear and objective point of view.

The third step is, after you done think and rethink as clearly and objectively as you can, you can do something to fix it. There are two choices: fix your problem or fix your emotion. That will be better if you fix your problem first. But sometimes, there are the cause of anger which is too unimportant to talk about you will be shame. If so, you only have one choice, and that is fix your emotion. Tell the person how you feel about what he/she has done. Or you can ask the reason why has he/she done that, if you like. It’s up to you. The point is, you have see the situation with objective glasses, so the probability of regret your reaction to your anger will be lessen.

Great Quotes about Little things

Well, i just changed my blog name into "every little things that count." I guess because i do cherish little things and their effect to our life. Here some quotes about little things from various source. Enjoy :)

"Great things are done by a series of small things brought together."
-- Vincent Van Gogh

"Only those who have the patience to do simple things perfectly will acquire the skill to do difficult things easily."
-- Johann Schiller, poet and historian

"Show me a man who cannot bother to do little things and I'll show you a man who cannot be trusted to do big things."
-- Lawrence Bell

"What we call little things are merely the causes of great things; they are the beginning, the embryo, and it is the point of departure which, generally speaking, decides the whole future of an existence. One single black speck may be the beginning of a gangrene, of a storm, of a revolution."
-- Henri Frederic Amiel

"Sometimes when I consider what tremendous consequences come from little things. I am tempted to think there are no little things."
-- Bruce Barton

"Nothing can be done except little by little."
-- Charles Baudelaire

"There is no one giant step that does it. It's a lot of little steps."
-- Peter A. Cohen

"It can be helpful simply to make a written or mental list of the things you do each day. Then give yourself a mental credit for each of them, however small. This will help you focus on what you have done instead of what you haven't gotten around to do. It may sound simplistic, but it works."
-- David D. Burns

"The happiness of life is made up of minute fractions -- the little soon forgotten charities of a kiss or smile, a kind look, a heartfelt compliment, and the countless infinitesimal of pleasurable and genial feeling."
-- Samuel Taylor Coleridge

Source: www.myfavoriteezines.com
www.quotationsbook.com

a message for me,i guess...^^

please tell me, time...

have you ever heard this quote?
"everything has been figured out, except how to live."
i forget who said this, but i do think that maybe we should be taught about how to live...especially about how we doing our things in present without dwell on our past.
i know maybe it sounds lame, but really, i cant help to thought and wondered about my past like, anytime!
i know, i know, it's the past. it's unchangeable. and all you gotta do is move on. yes, been heard about that too.
but how we know if the past is unchangeable or not?how can we be so sure about that?what if we can change the end of our story?isn't our story is still transpires until now?
and how come we really move on from someone that we loved?how can we lose our feelings just like that?what if the feeling, instead of fade away, remains grow and grow everyday?
am i stupid or retarded to have this feeling grow?am i different from anyone else?
fuh, maybe the cliche answer or the only one answer about my questions is..TIME. time will tell. time always tell. i just have to wait, haven't i?

well..

people say that everything happens for a reason.
i see.
he gave me love and then take it away.
he denied my love.
and i have to hide my feelings for him.
i believe there's a reason.
i believe he's a man of his words.
but no. no, he's not.
the love that supposed to be strengthening me..is weakening me..
and part of me has been killed inside.

i would never be the same again.